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Either people don’t understand me or I can’t speak in a language they understand. I am not an emotionally flat person. I am composed of highs and lows. Like everyone … Continue readingA Work in Progress

If you ask me how self-aware I am on a scale of 0 to 10. My answer would be 10. I know and measure every single aspect of my behavior. … Continue readingFinding Your Tribe

For my grandma love was simple. Her expectations were few in numbers if she really had any. I do not remember a single incidence where my grandpa brought her flowers, … Continue readingLove that doesn’t bring flowers

For my grandma love was rather simple. Her expectations were few in numbers if she really had any. I do not remember a single incidence where my grandpa brought her … Continue readingLove, the moonlit-night

In one year of volunteering, I have been taught to be less judgemental. To acknowledge the human diversity and to accept people as they are. I ran several support groups … Continue readingAcceptance

I love flowers. I love dogs, a lot. I wish my house was full of rare plants and I had like 6 dogs? Three for me, three for the lady. … Continue readingLove, flowers and dogs

People’s opinions about you are simply opinions. They are not truths. Don’t internalize them and causes yourself to suffer. Most people know very little about you. How they judge you … Continue readingOpinions

It’s not that love is absent in pathological relationships. Love is present in pathological relationships as much as it is present in healthy ones. Because people are wired for love … Continue readingLove isn’t any madness

The straw, invisible unless you were standing up close, was tirelessly trying to make it to the shore. Every time a wave would carry it close, the next one would … Continue readingTyranny of the waves

When I say people don’t change my psychologist friends object. Psychologists are optimistic because their profession requires them to be so, like the cancer doctors. What do I exactly mean … Continue readingPeople Don’t Change

Things often look more beautiful in photos than in reality. By limiting our field of vision, we are forced to focus on the details. Life is like that. Zoom in … Continue readingZoom In

The other day, I went to this restaurant. They gave me three menus with pizza, pasta, fried rice, noodles and what not! I sat there shuffling menus for five minutes … Continue readingChoice Paradox

Even our moral values are subjective. Even our moral values are subjective. My Pathao rider claims himself to be a pious man, but he asked me to go without the … Continue readingMoral Values Being Subjective

One way to think of people is to think of them as random and unpredictable. A better way is to think of them as strategists. They know exactly what they … Continue readingMaking sense of people

Much of the memes, quotes and relationship advice people share on Facebook are kinda toxic. Maybe the word toxic isn’t right. People just use them in the wrong context. But … Continue readingLearning From Toxic Memes

To my grandma telephone was magic. Every once in a while, it would carry one of her son’s voice from a far land she had only heard of. She had … Continue readingTelephone

Vehicles in Dhaka move pretty close to one another. At this high speed, even if one car takes a wrong turn, a disaster will happen. But they rarely take wrong … Continue readingFaith

People often say life is short. I disagree. If you didn’t have to sleep for 8 hours a day, if you didn’t have to brush your teeth, comb your hair … Continue readingLife isn’t short